First of all I need a hall pass for inconsistency. I missed Monday, Monday AND Hump Day Miscellany. I blame the election! Or maybe just a lack of inspiration.
Here’s another hall pass question. If you only had 1 hall pass to hand out and you had the following 2 cases who would get it?
1). A man who cheats on his wife and then repents and works it out so that he can honor his wedding vows ever thereafter and keep his family whole.
2). A man who dumps his wife of 14 years who has waited for 6 years for him to come home, all the while raising their children, who then dumps aforementioned wife for a rich trophy wife.
I’m particularly interested in you fidelity purists. Does being a POW and the passage of time really get you off the hook? If so, how do you maintain your stance that any act of infidelity robs a man of all integrity and credibility? And if your position is “they just stayed married for the political advantage” be very careful – how much do you enjoy having people tell you why you do anything when they don’t live inside your head and your heart? How often is anyone correct when they say “you just did that because….” as they tear into you?
Discuss.
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On the plus side, both cases make the guy who has been faithful to his awesome wife look even better!
No.1
I don’t think any of us can truly comprehend what six years in a Viet Cong POW camp would do to a person.
Also, I think that if you checked back there were large numbers of returning POWs who later ended up divorced. And although this is not an excuse, the amount of changes that both parties went through during those years is often enough to make each of them unrecognizable to each other.
What started out as an eternal bond made at a young age is often found to be substantially lacking in substance, especially after one stays home for six years wondering if the other is still alive, and the other spends that time being brutally tortured.
Having not walked in either of their shoes, I am reluctant to cast stones (or hand out and/or retract hall passes), although some times it appears easy to do from the confines of a comfortable life.
how about a devout “christian” woman who gets married by a justice of the peace and then tries to use her position to enact revenge on someone she doesn’t care for? DISCUSS THAT! 🙂
how about a devout “christian” woman who gets married by a justice of the peace and then tries to use her position to enact revenge on someone she doesn’t care for? DISCUSS THAT! 🙂
how about a devout “christian” woman who gets married by a justice of the peace and then tries to use her position to enact revenge on someone she doesn’t care for? DISCUSS THAT! 🙂
i’d hold out. i figure i have one hall pass. if i dole it out too soon, numbers 3-6 might really need it. and perhaps #2’s wife is better off. if he makes that decision, move on. he’ll recycle #2 later. he might be coming back with heaps of other problems. who knows. anyway, she’ll have the kids. he can’t buy his way back into their hearts.
i’m saving my hall pass for #3. can’t say that #1 won’t repeat again. so yeah, not judging them, they just don’t get my hall pass. dude, those are hard to come by. when i do give it out, i’ll have my contestants stand in line like von trapp kids. i’ll pace up and down, drumming my fingers, asking silly questions, doing sudden about faces. i’ll milk it.
Wow. Jeanne is very serious about her discussions!!!
You know where I stand.
Ok, but you forgot to add that guy #2 cheated on his wife REPEATEDLY with different woman, and applied for a marriage lic to marry another woman in another state before he was divorced from wife #1. Oh, and he dated wife #2 for NINE MONTHS before he moved out of their home. I was shocked after I watched that last night. This from the “values” party.
Ha!
This is a can of worms….NO comment! :-0