What is it with men and their ridiculous sense of immortality? I was cruising an on-line dating site and found man after man after man who, at the age of 50+ happily pronounces that he’s looking for a mate because he’s finally ready to start a family.
I’m sure plenty of people can pipe up and say that his or her DoD is that old or that her spouse was 54 when the first kid was born and it is wonderful and I’m sure it is – for the parents. I’m sure parents that old are great for kids – as long as they are healthy and alive. But here’s an irrefutable fact for you. If you are 60 when your kid is 10 then you will not likely be around for long if at all as a grandparent,. If you are 60 when your kid is born and your kid waits until he or she is 30 to procreate then you are, at the very least going to be very, very old when that grandchild is born.
I have a hard time with that. I really do. I have a really, really hard time with men in their 50s and 60s and 70s fathering children. I just do. I’m a little chagrined to say that because I know there are lots and lots of women who for one reason or another can’t start a family until they are in their early 40s and I have no problem with that at all. In fact, I have no problem with a woman of 42 who has a spouse of 52 starting a family. What I have a problem with is a guy who just screws around being totally selfish until he is in his mid-fifties finally deciding he wants to get married and have a family. I would venture to say that 9.5 times out of 10 he is not looking for a woman who is at the cusp of her childbearing years – he is looking for a woman in her 20s or 30s. Or there is the other model that just frosts my chaps – they guy who has a mid-life crises, dumps his life long faithful wife who stood by his side and raised his children, and then marries some young hottie and starts a second family. I say that even though I have a friend in that category. I still think it is just plain wrong.
Of course there is that element of ‘if all of the men my age are looking for young women to procreate with where does that leave me’ only that isn’t it because men who think like that are not my type (good thing, eh?!)
Anyhow, what do you think?